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Team building retreat of ENPHO
The art of leadership
May 21, 2025
It is the subtleties that make a big difference. What seems similar are actually not. In fact, many times they are opposites. There is great difference between being careless and being carefree, being lazy and being relaxed, being pushy and being proactive. Likewise, being greedy and intending higher achievements are very dissimilar qualities. In the same way, can you see the difference between being childish and childlike? Being irresponsible and being detached?
Qualities are subtle. And it is the subtle qualities that shift leaders from efficiency to effectiveness and from effectiveness to greatness. Do leaders always have to demonstrate good behaviour? Are there some things that leaders should always avoid? The difference between good and bad behaviour is concrete. But there is a very fine distinction between good and bad qualities. What we perceive as good deed is not always good, nor are bad actions always bad.
‘Being nice to people’ and ‘truly loving people’ may seem similar but are not the same. People who are nice to you may not love you and people who truly love you may not always be nice to you. Kindness is gentle, but if it is real kindness that comes from the heart, it can
be ruthless as the situation demands. It is not easy to function from higher quality like ruthless compassion. This is not just being rude. This is for the higher good of people and operates with great awareness. In the same way, benign compassion is not just being ‘Mr or Ms Nice’.
The two words automatic and spontaneous also look similar. But these two qualities are totally opposite. Automatic behaviour is mechanical and lacks awareness. Great leaders function from the domain of spontaneity, which is more truthful and natural. Automatic behaviour is habit. They govern you because you are powerless.
Spontaneity, on the other hand, is free flow of energy from your inner source. Leadership involves many skills and technologies. But it is the art that gives leadership the fineness. Being carefree yet sincere to goals, being relaxed yet active, being proactive without being pushy are all arts of great leaders. They intend to achieve higher things without being greedy. They are detached yet totally involved. They behave adult-like and yet their being is childlike. These are the art and the heart of leadership.
Good and bad are two-dimensional. When you move to the third dimension, you encompass both. They are integrated like white and black in yin-yang. Leadership now is no more about good and bad, but about integrity and being authentic. It is about being ethical beyond societal morals. The more you are honest, the more spontaneous you become.
(R. Manandhar is the lead facilitator at Kabule – The Wise Leader. He has been a regular columnist on leadership for ten years in The Himalayan Times, Nepal's largest-selling English daily. This article was originally published in the paper’s 'Leadership League' column. He can be contacted at kabule2020@gmail.com.)